Beautiful Community
This month I have three video reflections to share. One on creating space for restorative healing community as an alternative to “cancel culture”, the next on forgiveness and the last on the discomfort of dissolving outdated identities. Let me know your thoughts if any of this resonates with you!
Last month I wrote a piece about boundary setting being a skillset that requires nuance. I offer that boundaries well done lead to greater clarity and compassionate connections. Outside of truly abusive behavior, I’m not interested in the broad stroke “I’ve set a boundary and now I’m done with you” proclamations. These might work for the one saying it, but they shut doors for learning and growth and often deny the experience and humanity of the other. That’s not relational.
This month, I’m reflection on how hard authentic communication and being in relationship can be. I hope I mentioned this in last month’s blog. It certainly bears repeating – communication can be really hard. It requires patience, compassion and a willingness to be vulnerable with another. It becomes even more challenging when we’re in the midst of a conflict. Knowing that there are going to be challenges, and dealing with a culture which in some ways is conflict avoidant, how do we set out to grow and transform and heal together?
I would offer that it’s not through cancel culture, ghosting (or “icing” as i kept calling it in the video - ha!) but in meeting each other in supportive spaces and making choices that allow room for mutual healing and growth.
How did I become interested in restorative systems of being?
Through forgiveness in my own life.
(Trigger warnings in this video, relational and sexual abuse)
Energy of Transformation - Dying to the Old
Here’s where I’m at in general: super sensitive as I continue to acknowledge some recent changes/loses and allow the vibrations of this transition to wreck me.